"No One Will F* With You" - FBI Agent's 6 Psychological Tricks to Shut Down a Narcissist - Chris Voss (Video)

You know those moments when you’re stuck dealing with someone who absolutely refuses to listen, never seems to care about how you feel, and just LOVES to control the conversation? If you’ve ever found yourself negotiating with a narcissist, a manipulator, or just a downright difficult person—homie, THIS is your episode.

In this 30 July 2025 video, host Lisa Bilyeu talks with former FBI hostage negotiator and bestselling author Chris Voss who reveals the exact negotiation secrets he’s used with terrorists, criminals, and (let’s be honest) some of the most challenging people on earth—so YOU can finally outsmart toxic personalities in work, relationships, or anywhere you’re feeling powerless.

From “forced empathy” tricks that instantly flip the power dynamic in a conversation, to the two magic words that can dramatically transform how someone treats you (hello, sanity-saving hacks!) Chris is here to show you how to take control—even when the stakes are high and your emotions are spiraling.

Here’s exactly what we dive into:

• Why some people become narcissists or sociopaths (and why understanding their emotions is your secret weapon).
• The ONE question that instantly reveals if someone is truly collaborative or just playing mind games.
• How to create the “illusion of control” (and use it to get what you want—even with a control freak or manipulator).
• The difference between “you’re right” and “that’s right”… and why one can save you (while the other will trap you!).
• Chris’s “late night DJ voice” trick for staying calm, defusing drama, and never getting sucked into a toxic spiral again.
• Real do’s and don’ts for protecting yourself with bad actors—in business, family, or romantic situations.
• Smart boundary-setting scripts that WORK even with toxic bosses, partners, or intimidating personalities.
• How to avoid falling into the disappointment trap of compromise and what to do instead.
• The power of practicing your own “chatter” and building emotional resilience (yes, even when you’re totally triggered!).

Whether you’re dealing with an overbearing boss, a gaslighting ex or a relationship that just won’t relent—Chris’s advice will help you reclaim your power, keep your cool, and get the upper hand (invisibly). No more getting manipulated, bulldozed or scrambling for words!

So get ready, take notes, and arm yourself with the tools to stand up for yourself—and walk away from toxic situations stronger than ever!

https://youtu.be/W47m08sSm_Y

Chapter Titles:
[00:00] Using Negotiation Skills in Daily Life
[04:30] Using Passive Aggression for Control
[13:24] Handling and Acknowledging Anger
[19:38] Respect Drives Connection
[22:16] The Magic of Saying “You’re Right”
[24:58] No Easy Way to Break Up
[33:07] Voice Tricks for Calm and Impact
[39:36] Compromise: A Guaranteed Bummer?
[42:11] Chasing Happiness: An Unpredictable Ride
[45:08] Dealing with the Mind’s Chatter
[48:05] Cutting Ties with Toxic People
[51:48] Negotiation Tips for Everyday Heroes