Toxic Femininity: Killing and Depriving Kids — and Celebrating It

By Selwyn Duke

Imagine, as a thought exercise, that a prominent man said the following, explaining why he was purposely raising kids without a mother.

Do you know how f****** great it is to live exactly how I want to live, to experience fatherhood exactly how I wanted to experience it? And I know the next thing they say is like, ‘Well, that’s not fair on your kids.’ Can I tell you something? That will be their story to tell. I can’t tell you. I can only tell you that this is the best way that I know how to be a father to them…. I love that I don’t have to run every f****** thing by a woman. I don’t. I love that I don’t have to.

Would his attitude be praised?

Now imagine that this man, who’ll be 50 next month, celebrated his “liberation” in another way. “I did just recently f*** a 26-year-old,” he says, “and it was really f****** amazing…. And I was like, ‘Oh, this is great!’”

Might people not call him a dog? At best, observers would chalk the above up to a pathetic mid-life crisis.

Or try this on for size. Imagine two men flippantly boasting about how many abortions they’ve enabled with women they impregnated. “I think maybe, like, I want to say five,” one says.

“Yeah, I’ve had about five, too,” the other responds. “I’m so happy I can say that and you can say it and no one came to shoot us down…. No judgment.”

Would they be applauded? It’s hard to imagine. But not with the women — yes, women — who actually did make their corresponding versions of the above statements. In fact, their toxic femininity has Establishment approval.

Not Exactly Sugar and Spice

The first statement (with “motherhood” and “mother” in place of “fatherhood” and “father” and “guy” in place of “woman,” of course) was made by 49-year-old actress Charlize Theron on her Call Her Daddy podcast. The boasting about relations with a 26-year-old was hers, too. The episode has fairly close to one million views.

The abortion comments were made by British singer and actress Lily Allen and TV host Miquita Oliver on a recent episode of their Miss Me? podcast. And all the women’s remarks were discussed on Piers Morgan Uncensored’s Tuesday edition during a debate on feminist corruption. Featured was host Morgan, podcaster Andrew Wilson, radio figure Jedediah Bila, and left-wing journalists Ernest Owens and Taylor Lorenz.

Mommy Queerest?

While the episode featured a wide-ranging, nearly hour-long debate, the motherhood and abortion comments were the most striking. As for the former, Morgan and the two conservative guests, Wilson and Bila, emphasized that fatherless homes are sub-optimal.

This is just stating the obvious. Decades of research have consistently shown that, on average, children do best when raised by a biological father and mother. (It’s what one could call, using the Left’s terminology, “settled science.”)

Yet left-wing guests Owens and, in particular, Lorenz, denied this reality; their feelings said otherwise and that was enough. They should have been asked Professor Thomas Sowell’s question: “Where’s your data?”

Theron is no exception to the mother-father ideal, either. She has two adopted children, a boy and a girl — except that the boy now “identifies” as a girl. (My, who saw that coming, with no paternal influence and an apparently anti-male mother?)

Consider, too, Theron’s words. She trumpeted living “exactly how I want to live, to experience motherhood exactly how I wanted to experience it.” I, I, I; me, me, me. What perhaps eludes Theron is that when you have kids, there’s no more “you.” You go out the window; your children get prioritized. But that is part of sacrificial love, something often absent when God is.

As for Theron’s “cougar” boasting, Morgan stated that an older male star who bragged so salaciously would be condemned. He’s correct.

Valkyries of the Culture of Death

Even more outrageous, though, were the earlier cited prenatal infanticide comments. Morgan played a clip of Lily Allen literally singing, using the most frivolous voice, “Abortions, I’ve had a few. But then again, I can’t remember exactly how many.” She and Miquita Oliver subsequently stated, most casually, that they had about five each.

This evoked some strong reactions among the Morgan panel. But the most striking was Lorenz’s, which should be rendered more clearly than she stated it. She expressed that the two women’s frivolous displays were a good thing because they represent the normalization of abortion. She apparently wants such extermination considered akin to an appendectomy.

For Morgan’s part, he said he believes “in a woman’s right to choose what she does with her body.” But he’s adamantly opposed to talking about it “so glibly” and in such a “boastful way.” Yet here’s what no one on the panel said:

Lorenz’s view is more rational than Morgan’s.

After all, if at issue is just the woman’s “body,” merely an “unviable tissue mass,” why are respect and sobriety warranted? Can a woman not joke about the removal of an unwanted body part, such as an appendix or tonsils?

Morgan’s level of outrage only makes sense if at issue is the murder of an unborn human being. Of course, some could assert (and some do) that the intrauterine entity is alive but in a subhuman stage. In this case, the socially expected attitude may reflect that of a good hunter. You kill the non-human organism — but you don’t spike the football. You show respect for God’s creation.

Yet there is a problem with this not-quite-human argument.

Reason It Out

People have different opinions on when a “fetus” becomes human. But does it really matter what month one says human life “may” begin? For, regardless, we’re always presented with the same correlative questions. What week of that month? What day of that week? What hour and minute of that day? And, then, what second of that minute and millisecond of that second?

This lends perspective. After all, what we then must accept is that one second the intrauterine entity isn’t a person. But the next second it — though I suppose at that moment we can say “he” — somehow magically becomes one. And this isn’t even the moment of conception, a seminal event without which there would be no development in the womb whatsoever. So how, pro-abortion side, does this humanizing transformation take place?

The above is the Truth, and the Truth will out. Morgan’s outrage maybe, just perhaps, reflects that in his heart he senses that abortion really is prenatal infanticide. Having five of them may, too, place you in league with a serial killer.

The kicker is that if a man talked the way the famous women in question do, it might be called toxic masculinity. When these women do it, it’s called liberation.

For those interested, the Piers Morgan episode is below.

                     This article was originally published at The New American.